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2totangle
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Posted - 07/06/2009 :  3:10:20 PM  Show Profile Send 2totangle a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Most of my friends and family are not knitters, but there are a couple of exceptions. I've noticed over time that I feel somewhat squeamish about knitting for these few knitters and their families. Somehow, it seems presumptuous -- an invasion of the knitter's "territory," a suggestion that the knitter isn't taking care of her own, an imposition of my own taste, a hint of competitiveness, etc. I admit that these feelings strike me as somewhat odd, and probably say more about the nature of these relationships and my own foibles than anything else. But as a general rule, I don't knit for knitters or their families. I would never, ever knit for another knitter's husband.

On the other hand, my kids and DH have received knitted gifts from others, and these have generally struck me as thoughtful (although I do know one sweet, generous person who is a rather bad knitter, but who takes pleasure in knitting constantly for others. Her gifts often need fixing or burial in deep drawers, and I'm ashamed to say that I fear others might mistake her work for mine). I've recently been getting to know a very generous knitter who has begun making things for my family members, and after initially feeling that I wasn't doing my job, I now welcome this as the nice gesture it's intended to be.

So, what about you? Do you knit for other knitters and their families? How do you feel when others knit for your relatives?

Suzanne

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fiddlerbird555
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Posted - 07/06/2009 :  4:46:56 PM  Show Profile Send fiddlerbird555 a Private Message  Reply with Quote
I don't knit for knitters. I figure if they wanted something knitted, they could do a better job (getting exactly what they want) themselves. For closer family of other knitters, I might, though I can't think of anybody, and I knit pretty slowly. My mother made sweaters for my kids during her last "bout" of knitting (she goes nuts about every 10 years) but that was just when I was starting, and I still don't do sweaters. I was happy about that, and when she has a pattern she is better than I am.

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GFTC
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Posted - 07/06/2009 :  5:46:49 PM  Show Profile  Visit GFTC's Homepage Send GFTC a Private Message  Reply with Quote
I would only knit for a knitter or family of a knitter if it were a sweater (not a blanket) for a new baby.

I would not knit a baby blanket nor a dorm blanket for the child or grandchild of a knitter.

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MindyO
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Posted - 07/06/2009 :  11:39:44 PM  Show Profile Send MindyO a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Well, I've actually gone back and forth on this a lot in my own life and with other knitters whether they be family or friends.

I think if it's something the knitter you're gifting doesn't know how to knit, or they don't have time to knit things for themselves, then it's great. They know what work you put into it, appreciate the work and effort, and will care for the item as if they made it themself because they know what it took to make it. My mom can knit, but not socks. My grandma pretty much sticks to mittens. Plus it's kind of fun to give them things they love, then teach them how to make more for themselves.

My cousin, who is a bit overly proud and a bit on the jealous side, flat out told me she didn't want me to make her kids crocheted blankets becasue she can very well do them herself. But had no problem asking for sweaters, or booties, other items she doesn't know how to make. She also won't make items for someone who can knit or crochet.

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Lanea
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Posted - 07/07/2009 :  04:59:13 AM  Show Profile  Visit Lanea's Homepage Send Lanea a Private Message  Reply with Quote
I've received knitted gifts from a couple of knitting friends, and they are some of the most cherished items I own. As a knitter, I know how hard they worked on these things, and that they really thought about the colors I like and yarns that would suit me.

Personally, I like to knit and sew for knitters and stitchers and their families. I don't do it as much as I would like to because there is never enough time. It strikes me as odd to think that one shouldn't--giving someone a handmade item shows that you're willing to invest time and care in a gift for them. I think it's a great kindness, and knitters and their families deserve it at least as much as anyone else.

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lucienh
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Posted - 07/07/2009 :  05:32:26 AM  Show Profile Send lucienh a Private Message  Reply with Quote
When I knit for knitters I get really nervous and am extremely careful about weaving in the ends etc. but when I get something from a fellow knitter I feel touched and honored that someone put in that much time and effort for me.

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knitz2
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Posted - 07/07/2009 :  06:07:08 AM  Show Profile  Visit knitz2's Homepage Send knitz2 a Private Message  Reply with Quote
not knitting but the same concept. Actually, there are no other knitters among my family or close friends. But my adult daughter learned to crochet (from someone else) about the time I started developing my own crochet skills. I find myself crocheting things for her that are out of her comfort zone, sometimes working in her presence so she will see that it isn't really difficult - just different. she usually receives the items with the comment 'gosh, that's nice, do you think I could make one for <fill in blank>?' and I crocheted (because it's faster than knitting) baby blankets for my next door neighbor's two daughters who recently had babies. Marilyn (who crochets) said 'please do, they're going to need more than one blankie each and I don't want them expecting me to do a stack for each of them.'

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NutmegOwl
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Posted - 07/07/2009 :  06:44:33 AM  Show Profile  Visit NutmegOwl's Homepage Send NutmegOwl a Private Message  Reply with Quote
A different POV: When I was expecting Darling Bebe, a few of my closest pals told me they would not - could not - knit for me because they didn't think it would "measure up." I was so disappointed. I could not imagine why they felt that way. They all create lovely things and I would have treasured what they made. The knitted gifts I received (since outgrown) are stored away carefully as heirlooms for DB when she grows up.

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Wen
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Posted - 07/07/2009 :  07:33:32 AM  Show Profile  Visit Wen's Homepage Send Wen a Private Message  Reply with Quote
I don't knit for others.

My family gets stuff occasionally but it is my hobby and I prefer not to have deadlines and demands on my time. Presents are always bought.

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Amarula
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Posted - 07/07/2009 :  09:37:43 AM  Show Profile Send Amarula a Private Message  Reply with Quote
I love the (few) knitted items I've been given, so I assume other knitters would equally welcome them! I tend to give knitted gifts as special one-offs or birthday presents - I'm not committing to any Christmas craziness!
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Katheroni
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Posted - 07/07/2009 :  10:38:13 AM  Show Profile Send Katheroni a Private Message  Reply with Quote
Sure, I'll knit for my friends even if they have a knitter in the family. If they don't seem to have 12 billion scarves already, anyway.

I would generally not knit for the husband of a friend, anyway. If he were my main friend, then yes, but not if I was mostly friends with his wife. That just seems weird. But I have issues, I guess.

I have really liked the knitted and crocheted things I've been given -- not too many of them, but what I have I like or love. My sister knitted my baby a hat. I realize that baby hats are the easiest thing ever, but I just never got around to it. And then I didn't have to! Both my boys have blankets crocheted from the same pattern from my boss at work. They are great blankets, very cushy, and my older son loves his blankie in a really obsessed way.

I suppose if I enjoy getting handmade gifts for me or my family, other people who make things would also like it.
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marjotse
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Posted - 07/07/2009 :  12:34:02 PM  Show Profile  Visit marjotse's Homepage Send marjotse a Private Message  Reply with Quote
My mother also knits and she has made my daughters quite some nice items like
http://www.flickr.com/photos/98299499@N00/1341664494/
and this
http://www.flickr.com/photos/98299499@N00/1331117986/

She knits and then doesn't for a year or so and the things she makes are so nice so I don't feel any problems at all.

Marjolein

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hillstreetmama
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Posted - 07/07/2009 :  2:07:35 PM  Show Profile Send hillstreetmama a Private Message  Reply with Quote
I agree with Lanea that knitters appreciate the gift more, because they know what goes into it.

I knit for my new grandson, even though DD knits, too.

Jan
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Bethany
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Posted - 07/07/2009 :  2:47:58 PM  Show Profile Send Bethany a Private Message  Reply with Quote
I suppose I am more likely to knit for my Mom than crochet for my Mom, since she crochets but doesn't knit. So I generally think that if she wanted crocheted item X, she would have crocheted it herself.

However, I'm not yet at the "I have so many knitted items myself I need to either stop knitting, give them away, or drown" stage yet, so most of my knitting/crocheting is for myself! I just moved to Iowa last fall, I still have a long list of woolly knits I want!
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GFTC
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Posted - 07/07/2009 :  2:59:30 PM  Show Profile  Visit GFTC's Homepage Send GFTC a Private Message  Reply with Quote
I don't think it counts if the other knitter is your own mother or your own daughter. Of course you would knit for your grandchildren!



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candym
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Posted - 07/08/2009 :  2:31:24 PM  Show Profile Send candym a Private Message  Reply with Quote
I think that if someone knits something that they do especially well, that would be very much appreciated, and vice-versa.

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Wen
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Posted - 07/08/2009 :  3:37:02 PM  Show Profile  Visit Wen's Homepage Send Wen a Private Message  Reply with Quote
I don't mind other knitters knitting for me or my family but I draw the line at my husband. His mother and sister can knit for him but I would be upset if he accepted a knitted gift from a friend. That would make me really uncomfortable.

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busygirl
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Posted - 07/08/2009 :  4:36:40 PM  Show Profile Send busygirl a Private Message  Reply with Quote
[quote]Originally posted by Wen

I don't knit for others.

My family gets stuff occasionally but it is my hobby and I prefer not to have deadlines and demands on my time. Presents are always bought.

Wen
[quote]

I feel the same way about my knitting - it's my hobby and I find it very therapeutic, as well.I was a stay at home mom many years ago, and some of my in-laws were in the habit of telling me that I should knit for others and charge them,and when I said that I had no intention of turning my hobby into a money-making venture, they would look at me as though I'd come from another planet!

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jaymeKnits
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Posted - 07/09/2009 :  10:19:05 AM  Show Profile  Send jaymeKnits a Yahoo! Message Send jaymeKnits a Private Message  Reply with Quote
I love receiving knitted gifts and will knit for other knitters/knitter families. I think the understand the thought and effort more than others do. I recently did a baby blanket and booties for a friend's baby (on its way as I type actually). I gave it to her at her shower and didn't know that her mother and aunts are avid knitters. They passed it around and talked about the patterns, it was very well received and I'd knit for her again in a heartbeat if I have the time or inspiration to do so again.
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socks4all
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Posted - 07/09/2009 :  12:05:10 PM  Show Profile Send socks4all a Private Message  Reply with Quote
I am usually knitting for non-knitting friends and relatives. I love to give kntted gifts. After all, I have enough pairs of socks (35 at the moment), sweaters, vests, hats & mitts. So, my output needs to go somewhere. Recently in one of my knitting groups someone bemoaned that she never gets a knitted gift. None of us got knitted gifts. After that we did knit for each other, small thinks, not big sweaters but everyone appreciated it. My niece knit me an afghan for Christmas. I think I'm the only one who received an afghan that Christmas who truely appreciated the effort. Just because they could knit a project doesn't mean they would. The reason could be lack of experience or lack of time, or it could be on their "to do" list and then you've saved them the time.

I would not however gift a knitted project to another woman's husband (AWH) unless he was a relative (my brother-in-law got a sweater the same christmas that I gave one to my sister (his wife). Big gifts to unrelated AWH is always tricky. It would be too easy to construe that type of gift as having a secret meaning whether knit or just expensive.
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GFTC
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Posted - 07/09/2009 :  3:31:30 PM  Show Profile  Visit GFTC's Homepage Send GFTC a Private Message  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by socks4all
Big gifts to unrelated AWH is always tricky. It would be too easy to construe that type of gift as having a secret meaning whether knit or just expensive.



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