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imamshua
Chatty Knitter
USA
300 Posts |
 Posted - 12/16/2005 : 3:26:46 PM
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Tabbico
My deepest sympathy, I am so sorry for your loss and cannot imagine your pain. It sounds like you are surrounded by loving family and friends and that is something to be very grateful for.
Sally
If you think you're too small to be effective you have never been in bed with a mosquito - Bette Reese |
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imamshua
Chatty Knitter
USA
300 Posts |
Posted - 12/16/2005 : 3:26:46 PM
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Tabbico
My deepest sympathy, I am so sorry for your loss and cannot imagine your pain. It sounds like you are surrounded by loving family and friends and that is something to be very grateful for.
Sally
If you think you're too small to be effective you have never been in bed with a mosquito - Bette Reese |
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COgirl
Permanent Resident
USA
2176 Posts |
Posted - 12/16/2005 : 4:25:19 PM
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So sorry for your loss. But thank you so much for the sacrifice your family has made. Your son was a true hero. The memory afghan sounds like a wonderful idea to honor his memory.
There are many other families in your situation. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could all contribute a square to make memory afghans for those familiies as well? |
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COgirl
Permanent Resident
USA
2176 Posts |
Posted - 12/16/2005 : 4:25:19 PM
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So sorry for your loss. But thank you so much for the sacrifice your family has made. Your son was a true hero. The memory afghan sounds like a wonderful idea to honor his memory.
There are many other families in your situation. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could all contribute a square to make memory afghans for those familiies as well? |
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azknitter
Honorary Angel
5539 Posts |
Posted - 12/16/2005 : 5:33:54 PM
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While I wouldn't wish that anyone had to make such a terrible sacrifice, I'd like to say thank you for giving the world a son who was willing to help others by serving in the military.
He made a very real contribution that can never be discounted.
I hope your heart heals enough to enjoy your family and the rest of your life.
Trish
P.S. I totally understand that you wanted to knit that "urn cozy". I see it as a way to stay connected and to comfort the memory of your son in a way no one else can. |
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azknitter
Honorary Angel
5539 Posts |
Posted - 12/16/2005 : 5:33:54 PM
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While I wouldn't wish that anyone had to make such a terrible sacrifice, I'd like to say thank you for giving the world a son who was willing to help others by serving in the military.
He made a very real contribution that can never be discounted.
I hope your heart heals enough to enjoy your family and the rest of your life.
Trish
P.S. I totally understand that you wanted to knit that "urn cozy". I see it as a way to stay connected and to comfort the memory of your son in a way no one else can. |
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Deni
Chatty Knitter
198 Posts |
Posted - 12/16/2005 : 6:17:10 PM
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Tabicco, today is the 15th anniversary of the death of my daughter. The circumstances of our losses are different, but we are the same, you and I.
I'm really pleased that you perservered and did what you needed to do, in spite of the fact that your family thought you were crazy. What they didn't understand is that you were doing what you needed to do to try to get back a little sanity. Over the years I have taken a line from one of John Lennon's songs as my mantra: "Whatever gets you through the night, 'salright, 'salright."
I have found it comforting in a strange way to be in contact with others who have been on this sad road for a longer time than I have. It has helped me both to know that they are making it through the nights and that the grief is still a part of their lives.
I've found for myself that the quality of the grief hasn't changed at all. It's just that I've learned more coping mechanisms to get me from one day to the next.
I hope that my posting has given you a little comfort, too.
{{Hugs}} to you. |
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Deni
Chatty Knitter
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Posted - 12/16/2005 : 6:17:10 PM
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Tabicco, today is the 15th anniversary of the death of my daughter. The circumstances of our losses are different, but we are the same, you and I.
I'm really pleased that you perservered and did what you needed to do, in spite of the fact that your family thought you were crazy. What they didn't understand is that you were doing what you needed to do to try to get back a little sanity. Over the years I have taken a line from one of John Lennon's songs as my mantra: "Whatever gets you through the night, 'salright, 'salright."
I have found it comforting in a strange way to be in contact with others who have been on this sad road for a longer time than I have. It has helped me both to know that they are making it through the nights and that the grief is still a part of their lives.
I've found for myself that the quality of the grief hasn't changed at all. It's just that I've learned more coping mechanisms to get me from one day to the next.
I hope that my posting has given you a little comfort, too.
{{Hugs}} to you. |
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maribelaprn
Permanent Resident
USA
2033 Posts |
Posted - 12/16/2005 : 7:15:56 PM
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When I became an American citizen, the judge who performed the ceremony said that each of us has someone to thank for helping us get our citizenship. He went on to say that while thanking a family member or a friend was important, we should really be thanking a veteran. I owe my citizenship to your son and your family for making the ultimate sacrifice. You are forever in my prayers.
Mari
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maribelaprn
Permanent Resident
USA
2033 Posts |
Posted - 12/16/2005 : 7:15:56 PM
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When I became an American citizen, the judge who performed the ceremony said that each of us has someone to thank for helping us get our citizenship. He went on to say that while thanking a family member or a friend was important, we should really be thanking a veteran. I owe my citizenship to your son and your family for making the ultimate sacrifice. You are forever in my prayers.
Mari
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griffsmom
Gabber Extraordinaire
457 Posts |
Posted - 12/16/2005 : 7:58:31 PM
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I admireand applaud you and anyone who has continued to live their lives after the death of a child. My brother died 10 years ago (not a vet but under difficult circumstances) and watching my mom try to cope with it made me realize that parents should never have to outlive their children. Now that I'm a mom with a 5 y/o DS, I can't even imagine how I would get through each day if he were taken from me. Your loss touches my very soul and you have my heart and prayers for your continued healing.
*~*Lori*~*
My finished projects: http://community.webshots.com/album/308469463umpbHG
"Measure wealth, not by the things you have, but by the things you have for which you would not take money." ~ Unknown
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griffsmom
Gabber Extraordinaire
457 Posts |
Posted - 12/16/2005 : 7:58:31 PM
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I admireand applaud you and anyone who has continued to live their lives after the death of a child. My brother died 10 years ago (not a vet but under difficult circumstances) and watching my mom try to cope with it made me realize that parents should never have to outlive their children. Now that I'm a mom with a 5 y/o DS, I can't even imagine how I would get through each day if he were taken from me. Your loss touches my very soul and you have my heart and prayers for your continued healing.
*~*Lori*~*
My finished projects: http://community.webshots.com/album/308469463umpbHG
"Measure wealth, not by the things you have, but by the things you have for which you would not take money." ~ Unknown
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SpinaYarn
Gabber Extraordinaire
USA
492 Posts |
Posted - 12/16/2005 : 8:06:07 PM
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Your afgan is a wonderful concept - knitting thorough grief seems like the perfect thing to me.
I am so very sorry for your loss - my heart goes out to you.
May no other children die in war.
knit with joy-
Teyani
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SpinaYarn
Gabber Extraordinaire
USA
492 Posts |
Posted - 12/16/2005 : 8:06:07 PM
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Your afgan is a wonderful concept - knitting thorough grief seems like the perfect thing to me.
I am so very sorry for your loss - my heart goes out to you.
May no other children die in war.
knit with joy-
Teyani
www.http://intrepidfiberwizard.blogspot.com/ |
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Tabbico
Seriously Hooked
USA
960 Posts |
Posted - 12/18/2005 : 3:45:40 PM
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I thank you all for your kind words. Of all the weird things, yesterday I came home and found my DH on the sofa holding a Christmas card and crying. It was from our son's unit wishing us a Merry Christmas and remembering Donald. They all signed it.
Take my word for it, no one should outlive their children. I am a Civil War reenactor, and during those times, women might have 12-14 children and only a few of them would live past the age of 5. I have no idea how those women handled that.
Polly
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Tabbico
Seriously Hooked
USA
960 Posts |
Posted - 12/18/2005 : 3:45:40 PM
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I thank you all for your kind words. Of all the weird things, yesterday I came home and found my DH on the sofa holding a Christmas card and crying. It was from our son's unit wishing us a Merry Christmas and remembering Donald. They all signed it.
Take my word for it, no one should outlive their children. I am a Civil War reenactor, and during those times, women might have 12-14 children and only a few of them would live past the age of 5. I have no idea how those women handled that.
Polly
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ozknitter
Permanent Resident
Australia
3248 Posts |
Posted - 12/19/2005 : 8:15:40 PM
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Hi Polly,
I am so very sorry for your loss, I too lost a child.
You must have been and still are very proud of your brave son.
I'm so glad the afghan helped you to heal.
My prayers are with you.
Knit in peace and harmony.
Rose in Melbourne, Australia |
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ozknitter
Permanent Resident
Australia
3248 Posts |
Posted - 12/19/2005 : 8:15:40 PM
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Hi Polly,
I am so very sorry for your loss, I too lost a child.
You must have been and still are very proud of your brave son.
I'm so glad the afghan helped you to heal.
My prayers are with you.
Knit in peace and harmony.
Rose in Melbourne, Australia |
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2trees
Seriously Hooked
749 Posts |
Posted - 01/06/2006 : 1:29:21 PM
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*hugs*
I'm so sorry. |
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2trees
Seriously Hooked
749 Posts |
Posted - 01/06/2006 : 1:29:21 PM
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*hugs*
I'm so sorry. |
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