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knittingdiva
Gabber Extraordinaire
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 Posted - 06/15/2004 : 09:20:26 AM
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okay, the last thing i want to do is ruin a good thing with a sweater - so is there a time limit associated with the curse of love sweater? i keep thinking that after 3 years, it's safe...but maybe that's because my 3 year anniversary is in July?
my SO says that it's 2 yrs, and 11 months, just so I'll get started on the sweater, but i shall not knit haphazardly in the face of the knitting fates!
www.matiastudios.com
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Boogie
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Grey
Chatty Knitter
160 Posts |
Posted - 06/15/2004 : 11:34:07 AM
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Well, if it ends up not working out I wouldn't blame the sweater. I mean, if it were me and it were three years with no formal proposal including nice ring I would already be questioning the guy's commitment. But that's me; patience is one of those virtues I'm not so good with.
Has he made anything for you? 
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kimkrafty
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Posted - 06/15/2004 : 11:45:45 AM
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Knit it with love.
If you don't mind giving him other things, a sweater shouldn't matter. If the relationship is meant to be, it will be.
I don't believe in the curse.
There's supposed to be a saying about giving a man a watch or shoes. I gave my hubby both when we were dating. We're still together.
Kimberly, kniting in VA
http://kimberlyskorner.blogspot.com
FO for 2004: 1 blanket and 2/3 sweater Frogpond: 2 |
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Tam
Permanent Resident
Australia
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Posted - 06/15/2004 : 4:20:50 PM
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I knitted my DH an Aran jumper when we were engaged and the only cursing involved with that jumper was me recently when I realised he had only worn it about half a dozen times in 6 years!!
Happy Knitting,
Tam in Melbourne
http://photos.yahoo.com/lillysmum2002
2004 Stats: 13 FOs, 2 WIPs, 1 frog
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diana.enky
Permanent Resident
Australia
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Posted - 06/16/2004 : 07:01:40 AM
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I tend to believe... I knitted my first husband a mohair sweater after almost 3 years and 6 years later we married, then 3 years later we divorced  Mind you I also believe in the 12 year cycle of renewal (or 12 year itch) .... but that is another thread
BTW I completely concur with Grey - I'd be asking the same questions
Diana
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Wovenflame
Seriously Hooked
Canada
812 Posts |
Posted - 06/16/2004 : 08:50:53 AM
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Originally posted by kimkrafty
If the relationship is meant to be, it will be.
I don't believe in the curse.
I agree with Kimkrafty and Boogie. A relationship that is meant to be will never be harmed by some supposed "love sweater curse". On the other hand, it is easy to blame a handknit sweater for a failed relationship.
I knit my boyfriend a sweater that he wore with pride. Three years later we were married. We have now been happily married for 27 years. No "love sweater curse" here.
I am not superstitious. My husband not only saw me before the wedding (some kind of superstition involving that) but we had our photos taken BEFORE the wedding. (We had them taken in the park and the wedding wasn't until the evening.) I also walk under ladders, cross black cat's paths, don't avoid "13" and so forth. Superstitions only have power over those who believe in them. I don't. Life is too short to live in fear of imaginary dangers.
I don't believe in "good luck" or "bad luck". Our lives are what we make of them. If it pleases you to make your SO a sweater and it pleases him to receive one then go ahead. The only thing to fear is fear itself.
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JLBeamish
New Pal
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Posted - 06/16/2004 : 10:55:55 AM
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Originally posted by kimkrafty
Knit it with love.
My mother knit two "steady sweaters" for my gf and me in high school. Then my gf's dad took a new job (on the other side of the Atlantic!).
I never saw my gf again; my mother died a long time ago; and I still have that sweater.
Knit it with love? Absolutely: the love of a mother for her son and the love of her son for his mother and his girlfriend. |
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JLBeamish
New Pal
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Posted - 06/16/2004 : 10:56:25 AM
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Originally posted by kimkrafty
Knit it with love.
My mother knit two "steady sweaters" for my gf and me in high school. Then my gf's dad took a new job (on the other side of the Atlantic!).
I never saw my gf again; my mother died a long time ago; and I still have that sweater.
Knit it with love? Absolutely: the love of a mother for her son and the love of her son for his mother and his girlfriend. |
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PainterWoman
Chatty Knitter
USA
142 Posts |
Posted - 06/27/2004 : 10:33:35 PM
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| The first sweater I knit was an Aran (!) for BF in highschool. Was too cheap to make it from wool, so used some synthetic, but it was warm and indestructible. It was my mother who insisted on synthetic and my mother who broke up the relationship... perhaps for good reason now that I've watched a few more episodes of America's Most Wanted. Then made a gorgeous pale blue mohair pullover for husband #1... he even wore it when we lived someplace appropriately cold. (I knit it while in California... so I might have already lost some of my marbles by then.) Present husband is very clear that he'd rather I didn't knit him a sweater. I think he's more nervous about the knitting sweater curse (or whether he'd like it) than I am. Since he said "no," I won't. But he might get an afghan or some scarves. |
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ErickaJo
Chatty Knitter
USA
102 Posts |
Posted - 07/13/2004 : 2:38:59 PM
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My fiance has asked that I knit him the "skully" sweater out of the Stitch n Birch book. I warned him about the curse, but he proclaimed that curses were for weenies. ;) This is why I love this man. I'll start the sweater as soon as I get the yarn.
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vicky by the bay
Permanent Resident
USA
4768 Posts |
Posted - 07/13/2004 : 4:55:40 PM
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I knit a sweater for Mike after we were together for over 2 and a half years...he moved out the end of June....get married then knit the damned sweater....or knit the sweater to see if your relationship is strong enough to weather the curse!!! Mine wasn't...but it was going down the road before I knit the sweater....so go figure!!!
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PainterWoman
Chatty Knitter
USA
142 Posts |
Posted - 07/13/2004 : 9:35:51 PM
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I always think of the Fairy Tales The Seven Swans when i think about knitting a loved one a sweater... that somehow it will UNCURSE the person... whether I get to enjoy them enjoying it or not.
Has any woman had their SO knit a sweater for them? Hubby is making me a stereo cabinet, which will be awesome, (maple/walnut, etc.) but I am not holding my breath for him to knit. |
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knittingdiva
Gabber Extraordinaire
394 Posts |
Posted - 07/14/2004 : 06:09:27 AM
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I am intersted in knowing why everyone assumed that my SO was a 'he'...and why marriage came up as something I would have to wait for 'him' to propose? While my SO and I *could* get married (since we live in Massachusetts!) it's just not on my list of things to do in the near future.
But rest assured that knitting her a sweater by Christmas is!
www.matiastudios.com
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Wovenflame
Seriously Hooked
Canada
812 Posts |
Posted - 07/14/2004 : 10:26:18 AM
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Originally posted by knittingdiva
I am intersted in knowing why everyone assumed that my SO was a 'he'
Knittingdiva, I have answered this question to the best of my ability at: http://www.knittersreview.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=18044
I had begun my answer here but then realized that the subject matter was definately getting off topic so I hope you don't mind following the link to my response in the other thread. Thanks.
-Marlene-
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ErickaJo
Chatty Knitter
USA
102 Posts |
Posted - 07/14/2004 : 11:48:01 AM
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You know, in life, online especially, we hold assumptions up to other people like new sweaters. :)
I think one thing that makes this group so close-knit (oh, the punny agony!) is that the most controversial thing we cover is continental vs. English... or along those lines. Is that a bi-sexual Goddess worshipper on the other side of the chatroom window? Perhaps, but they're a knitter, too. That's where we form our connection.
Don't be upset at a group of people who have never met you for not guessing your sexual preference... human nature, you see. I try to keep an open mind, but sometimes I'm closed-minded by programming. Yes, even me, a bisexual pagan knitter. :)
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knittingdiva
Gabber Extraordinaire
394 Posts |
Posted - 07/14/2004 : 12:33:21 PM
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I've posted a response under WovenFlame's new topic heading - but I want to make clear that I am not upset, offended or annoyed...I just noticed. And I like most of what I've found here at KR, so I thought I'd:
1) take responsibility for not being clearer from the get-go
2) ask about it
www.matiastudios.com
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ErickaJo
Chatty Knitter
USA
102 Posts |
Posted - 07/19/2004 : 4:35:42 PM
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I wasn't really worried that you were upset. You seem too level headed for that. But you're right, it is something that you notice ;)
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amber
Seriously Hooked
USA
758 Posts |
Posted - 07/21/2004 : 2:07:14 PM
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Originally posted by Grey
I mean, if it were me and it were three years with no formal proposal including nice ring I would already be questioning the guy's commitment.
Understanding is a three-edged sword
Why is that? I know this is moving off topic but this attitude bugs me. So many marriages fail... A ring doesn't make a commitment any stronger. I have had the same boyfriend for 9 years and we've lived together for 8 of those years. So I should be questioning the commitment of a man who has never cheated on me and whom I love very much because we're not married?
I'd even make him a sweater but he's always warm so it doesn't really make sense to make him one. So he got a few scarves instead.
Just had to respond to that statement.... I just don't get it. After all I could always propose if I wanted to.
-Amber
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RoseByAny
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USA
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Posted - 07/21/2004 : 2:13:49 PM
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I agree, Amber! I said frequently both before and after my wedding that the slip of paper saying I was married probably meant more to other people than it did to me. I love my husband, and I'm thrilled to be his wife. But one of the reasons I wanted to marry him was that people outside the relationship tend to think it's not a serious (or not AS serious) if you aren't married. I didn't love Ken any more January 2 than I did December 31. My committment to him has not changed.
But society sees it differently, and that societal acknowledgement was important to me (he works a very dangerous job, and morbidly, I want to be his next of kin. I don't want third or fourth call if something terrible happens.)
"Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense, and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable."
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Allyn
Chatty Knitter
USA
290 Posts |
Posted - 07/22/2004 : 10:03:52 AM
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For me the sweater was the cursed thing...not the relationship. I knitted it the first year of our marriage (hmmm, maybe no one had heard of the curse in the Stone Age?). Too large, frogged it. Re-knit it. Too heavy. Frogged it. Started it again...cursed thing. That was 43 years ago. Still married, still no sweater. LOL!!
Allyn
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